Think Big: Why You Should Stop Playing Small and Go After What You Deserve

Written by Brianne Rush | Sep 4, 2024 10:38:56 AM

Picture this: I'm sitting in the VP of Editorial’s office, nerves tingling as I prepare for my six-month review. Little did I know, this meeting would teach me a lesson that would reshape my entire career.

My advancement had been quick so far: I had been hired into a full-time role after just three weeks as an intern. This role wasn’t glamorous; I was a fact checker for every article that went into seven different magazines, but it was my first adult job in an industry I had dreamed of working in my whole life. It was the first step to crushing it.

I worked extremely hard, even staying late numerous evenings to get the job done. My commitment paid off. I was quickly moved into an editorial role with Dance Spirit magazine, which is exactly where I wanted to be.

Now, the person who oversaw all the editorial articles for the entire company wanted to know “where I saw myself in five years.” I have learned this question can be both a blessing and a curse, sometimes both at the same time. 

When Karen asked me where I saw myself in five years, I hesitated for a moment, then answered cautiously: “I want to be managing editor of Dance Spirit Magazine.” It felt ambitious yet safe—like a goal within reach, but not too far out of bounds.

I was thrilled when they said that was a good goal and even hinted that it was likely to happen. All my dreams were coming true! 

Being Realistic Really Wasn’t Best

My best friend at the company, Alison, also had this exact same conversation, I learned a little later. We had both started as interns and both gotten full-time roles. When she checked in during her review, she said something so audacious, I could barely believe it. When asked where she wanted to be in five years, she said: “I want your job, Karen!”

The VP of Editorial sat over even the Editor in Chiefs for each magazine. She had the top editorial job within the entire organization. 

“I can’t believe you said that!” I laughed. I was happy for both of us, and didn’t think much more of it. 

Fast forward six more months, and I couldn't believe things had progressed so quickly: I was being offered the managing editor role, just like I wanted, but several years sooner. I eagerly accepted and did my best to put out the best magazine the audience had seen. 

While I was content with my new role, Alison’s audacity paid off. Just a year later, she was offered the Editor in Chief position—something that had never even been discussed with me. Her boldness had opened doors that my caution kept closed.

I realized too late that by setting my sights on a role that felt safe, I had unintentionally limited myself. The real lesson? Don’t be afraid to aim higher, even if it feels out of reach. 

I hadn’t reached far enough. My true ambitions were to be Editor in Chief, but I didn’t want to sound ridiculous, because I thought that would never happen in just five years. I thought I had to dedicate years or even decades before that could happen. 

But I didn’t say it. 

I landed right where I said. How were they to know my ambitions were bigger?

Alison had said it, so they knew exactly what she wanted. 

My Big Lesson Learned

This is one of the biggest lessons that has truly stuck with me throughout my career. The timeline didn’t matter; I was taking the question at face value. But really, they were asking, “What are your dreams and ambitions?”

While my friend was suited for the big role (She did great! No knocking her here.), I may have been too if I was not afraid to shoot high when it came to explaining what I wanted. 

Here’s what I learned: When asked about your future, don’t just think about what’s possible—think about what you truly want. Even if it feels far-fetched, voice your biggest ambitions. The worst that can happen is that you learn what it takes to get there, and the best? You might just get exactly what you ask for. 

Shoot high. Go big. Do not undervalue yourself. Tighten the timeline. Make it happen. Here’s how: 

When discussing your career goals with your boss, follow these steps: 

  1. Prepare thoroughly—know your achievements and how they align with your goals. 
  2. Speak with confidence—don’t be afraid to express your biggest ambitions. 
  3. Align your goals with the company’s mission—show how your growth benefits both you and the organization.

Be specific about the areas in which you want to grow and the roles or responsibilities you are interested in pursuing. Share examples of your achievements and contributions that demonstrate your readiness for advancement. Additionally, express your willingness to take on new challenges, learn new skills, and undertake additional responsibilities to support your career progression.

But most of all, showcase your passion for what you do and what you can contribute in future roles. 

Then, listen actively to any feedback and guidance you receive. Be open to constructive criticism. Be prepared to discuss potential opportunities for advancement within the company and inquire about the steps you can take to achieve your career goals. Finally, express your gratitude for the opportunity to discuss your ambitions. 

So, what’s that one goal you’ve been too afraid to say out loud? Stop waiting. Write it down, say it out loud, and start making it happen today.

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